Replacing Guilt with Compassion

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Does guilt interfere with your happiness? Many of us find that feeling guilty affects our choices, our actions, and our happiness. Getting rid of guilt is not as easy as one might expect; but there is an easy way to transform that guilt into compassion.



Regardless of the situation, feeling guilty does nothing to resolve it. If it is something you can take action to rectify, great; but if the circumstances are either beyond your own control right now, or taking action would mean going against your own happiness, health or beliefs, then feeling guilty about it can only make things worse. Feeling guilty produces stress chemicals in your brain and body, which can affect your health; it can negatively affect your judgement, your choices and the actions you take; and it can lead to a host of other problems.


Whereas guilt is a weak state, compassion is an empowering state. There are three steps to successfully transforming guilt to compassion. Following these steps can help you to become guilt-free – which can in turn lead to increased happiness, productivity, health, and freedom.


Step One

The first stage is to change perspective. The truth is that no matter how things appear, and no matter how little choice a person seems to have, every individual is responsible for their own happiness. Each person is creating and attracting the life experiences they live – even though it often doesn’t seem that way. This is usually done unconsciously and unknowingly; but no-one can create or attract in someone else’s life without their cooperation. This means that you cannot be responsible for someone else’s happiness. Only they can choose what they experience. You are responsible for your own happiness.


Step Two

Practice the Superpower Exercise, to become familiar with the state of compassion. Compassion is not sympathy or empathy; compassion is caring without feeling responsible. If it feels bad in anyway it is not compassion. Practising the Superpower Exercise will train you to strengthen your ability to tune in to the energy of compassion without the guilt.


Step Three

Whenever you find yourself in a situation that results in your feeling guilty, take a moment to tune in to compassion using the skill you learned through practising the Superpower Exercise, and fill that person with that energy. Fill that person with compassion and unconditional love. By filling them with that love, you are releasing the need for guilt. In addition to replacing the feeling of guilt with compassion, you will also be contributing to the well-being of the other person; and if they are subconsciously open to it, you may find their behavior or situation changes.


As always, please don’t hesitate to let me know if you have any questions or queries. Remember, also, that the Unconditional Love Forums are there for you to connect with others who are changing their lives through the power of unconditional love and compassion.


Love and Light and Magic

Odille xxx