To Fight or Not to Fight…


In the aftermath of the terrorist attack in Paris, many people are feeling fear, frustration, helplessness, anger, and a range of other emotions that are spurring them on to take some kind of action to fight the threat of further tragedy.

For many, there is a lot of swinging between being the light, and being drawn into the darkness. In other words, for many people there is a significant contradiction between what they believe (love, peace, kindness and compassion) and what they end up focusing on (fighting the threat).


Regardless of the action you may or may not choose to take, the Key is how you feel!


If you are feeling positive and happy about the result you plan to achieve through your action, then you are heading towards happiness; if you are feeling fearful and you are acting out of that fear, you are headed towards more reasons to feel fear.



1. The remote control to “out there” is inside you. This may seem absurd at times; but, if you think about it, you are the only constant in your life. Whatever you experience, you are there. And you are the only part of your experience that you truly have control over. You are holding the remote control to your life inside you – no matter what is happening around you. For a more detailed explanation on this, read: You’re Sitting on it! 


2. Every moment of human consciousness is a choice; even if it’s just a choice of where to put your focus.


3. You get what you focus on. Wherever you are focused in the moment is where you are going. Focusing on something is facing in that direction – when you move, you move in the direction you are facing. If you are looking left and try to walk right, you will eventually bump into something or fall over… and you will certainly not get very far in the direction you want to go. If you want to move north, you need to turn to face north. If you want peace, you need to put your focus on peace. If your focus is on revenge or fear, or on taking action against something, you are moving towards those experiences, and you will end up with more of that particular situation.


4. Only light can transform darkness. Darkness cannot survive in light; but a light can shine in the dark.


So, what can you do?

If you want to make a difference in the world around you, you need to use the controls inside yourself. This means controlling your own focus, and doing whatever it takes to stay in a state of love, compassion and kindness. You will find the Superpower Exercise very effective for developing the ability to manage your emotional state.


If you do want to take action you believe will help in some way, be sure to check how you’re feeling – how you are feeling will tell you where your focus is.


You are headed in the direction you are facing – where you put your focus is where you are facing.


For some of the science on how the way you feel affects the world around you, visit:


What about the “bad guys” and the threats?


There are three options:


1. Get involved and take physical action. Go over and help the victims and their families, or join the fight. And if this is the experience you would like to have, then you will want to face in that direction.


2. Face in the direction of the tragedy, the threats, and all the terrible things that are happening and could happen, without taking any action. This is also a choice, of course. And if you make this choice, you will move towards more of that experience. In other words, if you are focusing on fear, anger, resentment, frustration and other negative states, your health and the rest of your life and those around you will suffer the effects of those negative emotions; and feeling those emotions will not create more security or safety.


3. Face in the direction you want to go. Focus on becoming what you want to see in the world – compassion, kindness, love, fun and joy. You may not change the experience of those who have chosen the other options, but you WILL change your own experience. And you will also have a ripple effect on those around you.


Depending on your beliefs, you will be:

– affecting the world on an energetic level

– affecting those around you on an electro-magnetic level

– affecting the world on a spiritual level

– protecting yourself with light 

– creating a protective force-field of love

– affecting the world on a quantum level

– at the very least, affecting your own health, life experience and your connection with those around you in a powerfully positive way, on a purely “down-to-earth” logical level


What about the ones who want to fight?


It is worth remembering that every person has the right to choose their focus… and as a result, their experience. There are those around you who want to fight the threat; and that’s okay – for them. It doesn’t mean you should fight too. Some people like horror movies. Those who don’t like horror movies very often can’t understand why someone would do that to themselves; and the person who doesn’t like romantic comedies may feel the same about the people who enjoy that genre. One of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to make your own choices while allowing others theirs.


Developing the ability to put yourself into a physiological state of unconditional love through practice will allow you to feel confident, safe, and secure, and comfortable with allowing others to make their own choices while sticking to yours.


Further Resources:


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